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Am I weird?
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I have male friends, but it would never occur to me to write to them or call them, let alone confide in them. When I call my old friend Stan, which isn’t as often as I should, I’m delighted when his wife answers. I have a far easier time talking to her, in fact.
All of my really close friends are women.
How about you? Are most of your friends same sex, opposite sex, or is there no trend?
Sorry, I never figured out how to make the polling gizmo work. You’ll just have to leave a comment.
D.
PS: Don’t know if I’ll have a Cosmo Thirteen for you tomorrow. I’m feeling pretty exhausted tonight, and those Cosmo Thirteens are usually a two- to three-day affair.
hm. most are same sex, but then there’s cory. and you. and my boyfriend. and a bunch of camp friends. i guess it’s almost even.
You have a BOYFRIEND?
hee hee, just flashed on Young Frankenstein, Cloris Leachman’s line, “He vas my BOYFRIEND!”
So I had to go check your blog. No, it doesn’t make you a bad feminist to like being some guy’s girlfriend. It does make you a bad lesbian 😉
Best of luck with this, Shaina. Reading your Nov 12 post reminded me way too much of my happier diary entries from the 70s.
Hey Walnut. The answer is no but yeah. 🙂
In school, my friends were always same sex, but in real life, I don’t think there’s really a trend.
Interesting question. In high school all of my friends were girls except two guys of questionable sexual orientation (one is now openly gay and the other is, in my opinion, still questionable.) In college almost all of my friends were guys except for one girl who was part of that gang before I got there and another who joined as the girlfriend of one of the guys and ended up sticking around (they are married now.) In my adult life most of the friends I have made have been women. Partly because I was married to a mildly jealous guy most of that time and partly because I have mostly worked with other women. I guess overall ot evens out to about 50/50. With a few exceptions I have maintained my college friendships more than the others.
I don’t have a lot of friends, but the friends I have are good ones.
I’d say, overall, that the majority of people I feel comfortable with are female. I do have one good male friend, who, like you, I don’t call often enough, and a couple of female friends that are likewise.
And, of course, my best friend in the entire history of the world is female.
I don’t have any best friends…never really did…but I’ve always felt more comfortable with male acquaintances. Women are catty. Sorry, but we are.
My friends in college and prep school were mostly guys. But now they’re all women. And some of them are a catty bunch, it’s true.
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My close friends in high school were all girls, in university were all guys, and are now, with one large, bearded and sexy exception, all girls again (although I’m just as comfortable talking with their partners, I don’t generally hang out alone with the guys).
No clear consensus. Good — so I’m NOT weird, not about that, anyway.
From high school through my 20s, my friends were mostly guys. Now it’s mostly women, but I think that’s more a matter of circumstance than preference.
You know, it’s odd–I always feel more comfortable around men, like I can be myself, but with women I feel like I’m being judged and that I have to put on a front, though it’s not as bad now as it used to be. It’s only been in the last 5-10 years that I’ve actually found women friends that I can talk to about more than kids and fashion and pop culture.
Funny… it felt like university was all male friends. Highschool was of course female friends, boys were icky. Now, it’s funny but I can easily talk to men, but have a hard time striking up conversations with women (exception being Kris). I just keep thinking that women are judging me, and I can’t handle that – yep, women are catty. Guys, well, I’m married, so I don’t care anymore what they think… 🙂
So why don’t I find women to be catty?
I don’t think women are catty either. I’m mostly split too. Maybe they’re catty behind my back or maybe I’m oblivious. Probably the latter.
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CD, I suspect obliviousness is a good thing when it comes to catty women.
Suisan, I think I figured out the Enumclaw reference. But I could not find the video 🙂
Yeah, I don’t think there’s video available on the web. But they made a documentary movie about the main characters called “Zoo”.
The New York Times even reviewed it.
I think men tend to feel more comfortable confiding in women since women are more in tune with their emotions (traditionally, that is – no stereotyping here!). My husband has a guy friend who almost exclusively talks to me if he calls. In fact all of the communication is usually between him and me, making arrangements for the three of us to get together, etc. So you are not alone there.
In the case of women, I think women’s close friends tend to be women, but of course there are exceptions – some women have all male friends. I think it depends on the people involved in many cases, and on differences in communication styles.